People assume that iPhones, laptops and Netflix are evidence of progress. In some ways, that's true. A moderate amount of Googling, for instance, can be good for your brain, and there are apps that can boost brain function and activity.
Yet tech advancements also come with some unintended consequences. Our brains being "massively rewired" by tech, says neuroscientist Michael Merzenich in The Shallows: What The Internet Is Doing To Our Brains, a Pulitzer-nominated 2011 book by Nicholas Carr. Merzenich warns that the effect of technology on human intelligence could be “deadly.”
That got us thinking. How exactly is technology messing up our brains?
1. Tech is screwing up your sleep.
Studies have shown that blue-enriched light, which is emitted by gadgets like smartphones, tablets and laptops, can suppress the body’s release of melatonin at night. Melatonin is a key hormone that helps regulate your internal clock, telling your body when it is nighttime and when to feel sleepy. Blue light can disrupt that process, making it impossible for you to stick to a proper sleep schedule.
Losing sleep has a number of negative effects on your brain. If you’re not logging seven or more hours of sleep each night, you might suffer from increasingly bad moods, decreased focus at work and problems with memory, not to mention a loss of actual brain tissue -- all of which makes you less than a joy to be around.
2. You’re easily distracted.
You don't really need science to know this, but technology makes it much easier to get distracted, whether that’s stepping away from an important project to check your smartphone or flipping between multiple browser tabs without really focusing on any one. It has been proven that toggling between multiple tasks at once doesn’t actually work -- in fact, you just wind up performing all your duties even worse.
Teens in particular are more distracted than ever. A 2012 Pew Research Center survey of more than 2,400 teachers found that most educators feel students are more distracted than previous generations. Some 87 percent of teachers agreed with the statement, “today’s digital technologies are creating an easily distracted generation with short attention spans,” while 64 percent agreed with the idea that “today’s digital technologies do more to distract students than to help them academically.” Yikes.
3. You can’t remember much...
Technology's tendency to butt into whatever else you're doing makes it more difficult to form new memories. As Nicholas Carr explains in The Shallows, memory comes in two types: transient working memory and long-term memory, which is more permanent. Information needs to pass from working memory into long-term memory in order to be stored. Any break in the processes of working memory -- like, say, stopping to check your email or send a text message in the middle of reading an article -- can erase information from your mind before that transfer occurs.
There’s also a limit to how much information your working memory can take in at once. Taking in too much information -- which happens a lot online -- is like “having water poured into a glass continuously all day long, so whatever was there at the top has to spill out as the new water comes down,” productivity expert Tony Schwartz told The Huffington Post last year.
4. ...so you’re relying on the Internet to remember things for you.
People used to be able to retain really vast quantities of knowledge -- like reciting entire novels, word for word -- but technology has eliminated both the need and the drive to do so. When you know that Google or your smartphone can retain a piece of information for you, you’re less likely to store it in memory, studies have shown. Scientific American last year likened the Internet to an “external hard drive” for our brains, as we outsource an increasing amount of information to the web.
That’s not the worst thing in the world, Scientific American adds. We’ve always outsourced some of that information to external “hard drives” of sorts, relying on friends rather than technology to fill in the gaps in our knowledge. But these day we're "outsourcing" way more.
5. And you're much more forgetful than you used to be.
Millennials are actually more likely to forget what day it is or where they put their keys than people over the age of 55, according to a 2013 Trending Machine survey. In a press release for the survey, family and occupational therapist Patricia Gutentag called out technology as one of the main culprits: “This is a population that has grown up multitasking using technology, often compounded by lack of sleep, all of which results in high levels of forgetfulness,” she said.
6. You can’t concentrate on what you’re reading.
Even if you’ve shunned all distractions, you still won’t absorb information you read online as well as you would if you’d read it in a book. And you can blame hypertext for that. Those colorful little links scattered throughout online articles (including this one) make your brain work harder than it would otherwise, leaving less brain power to process what you’re reading. Even just reading on screens, like a laptop or iPad -- links or no links -- has been shown to diminish comprehension.
Research has shown that reading linked text “entails a lot of mental calisthenics -- evaluating hyperlinks, deciding whether to click, adjusting to different formats -- that are extraneous to the process of reading,” Carr wrote in “The Shallows.” And giving your brain more work to do makes it harder to absorb information. Text that’s peppered with photos, videos and ads is even worse.
7. You can’t find your way around without GPS.
People who rely on GPS to get around have less activity in the hippocampus, an area of the brain involved in both memory and navigation, according to a series of studies presented in 2010. Using spatial memory -- which involves using visual cues to develop "cognitive maps" that remember routes -- instead of operating on GPS-induced autopilot can help avert memory problems later in life, the studies found.
A 2008 study from the University of London even found that taxi drivers had more developed hippocampi than non-taxi drivers -- perhaps because they are so accustomed to navigating cities using spatial memory, rather than relying on GPS (though that may no longer be true of smartphone-equipped taxi drivers).
8. You have the brain of a drug addict.
No, “Internet addiction” isn’t just some BS term parents throw around to terrify youngsters who spend too much time playing Candy Crush. Spending too much time on the Internet can actually cause changes in the brain that mimic those caused by drug and alcohol dependence, according to a 2012 study.
Internet addicts -- most notably gamers who shun food, school and sleep to play for days on end -- have abnormal white and grey matter in their brains, which disrupts and cripples the regions involved in processing emotion and regulating attention and decision-making. Alcoholics and drug addicts have strikingly similar brain abnormalities, the study found.
“I have seen people who stopped attending university lectures, failed their degrees or their marriages broke down” because of Internet gaming addiction, Dr. Henriette Bowden Jones, who runs a British clinic for Internet addicts, told The Independent.
Now that you're properly terrified of the effects of technology on the old noggin, let us remind you that you do have the power to prevent brain drain and time-suck. Just log off every once in a while!
Thursday 31 July 2014
8 ways technology can make you crazy
People assume that iPhones, laptops and Netflix are evidence of progress. In some ways, that's true. A moderate amount of Googling, for instance, can be good for your brain, and there are apps that can boost brain function and activity.
Yet tech advancements also come with some unintended consequences. Our brains being "massively rewired" by tech, says neuroscientist Michael Merzenich in The Shallows: What The Internet Is Doing To Our Brains, a Pulitzer-nominated 2011 book by Nicholas Carr. Merzenich warns that the effect of technology on human intelligence could be “deadly.”
That got us thinking. How exactly is technology messing up our brains?
1. Tech is screwing up your sleep.
Studies have shown that blue-enriched light, which is emitted by gadgets like smartphones, tablets and laptops, can suppress the body’s release of melatonin at night. Melatonin is a key hormone that helps regulate your internal clock, telling your body when it is nighttime and when to feel sleepy. Blue light can disrupt that process, making it impossible for you to stick to a proper sleep schedule.
Losing sleep has a number of negative effects on your brain. If you’re not logging seven or more hours of sleep each night, you might suffer from increasingly bad moods, decreased focus at work and problems with memory, not to mention a loss of actual brain tissue -- all of which makes you less than a joy to be around.
2. You’re easily distracted.
You don't really need science to know this, but technology makes it much easier to get distracted, whether that’s stepping away from an important project to check your smartphone or flipping between multiple browser tabs without really focusing on any one. It has been proven that toggling between multiple tasks at once doesn’t actually work -- in fact, you just wind up performing all your duties even worse.
Teens in particular are more distracted than ever. A 2012 Pew Research Center survey of more than 2,400 teachers found that most educators feel students are more distracted than previous generations. Some 87 percent of teachers agreed with the statement, “today’s digital technologies are creating an easily distracted generation with short attention spans,” while 64 percent agreed with the idea that “today’s digital technologies do more to distract students than to help them academically.” Yikes.
3. You can’t remember much...
Technology's tendency to butt into whatever else you're doing makes it more difficult to form new memories. As Nicholas Carr explains in The Shallows, memory comes in two types: transient working memory and long-term memory, which is more permanent. Information needs to pass from working memory into long-term memory in order to be stored. Any break in the processes of working memory -- like, say, stopping to check your email or send a text message in the middle of reading an article -- can erase information from your mind before that transfer occurs.
There’s also a limit to how much information your working memory can take in at once. Taking in too much information -- which happens a lot online -- is like “having water poured into a glass continuously all day long, so whatever was there at the top has to spill out as the new water comes down,” productivity expert Tony Schwartz told The Huffington Post last year.
4. ...so you’re relying on the Internet to remember things for you.
People used to be able to retain really vast quantities of knowledge -- like reciting entire novels, word for word -- but technology has eliminated both the need and the drive to do so. When you know that Google or your smartphone can retain a piece of information for you, you’re less likely to store it in memory, studies have shown. Scientific American last year likened the Internet to an “external hard drive” for our brains, as we outsource an increasing amount of information to the web.
That’s not the worst thing in the world, Scientific American adds. We’ve always outsourced some of that information to external “hard drives” of sorts, relying on friends rather than technology to fill in the gaps in our knowledge. But these day we're "outsourcing" way more.
5. And you're much more forgetful than you used to be.
Millennials are actually more likely to forget what day it is or where they put their keys than people over the age of 55, according to a 2013 Trending Machine survey. In a press release for the survey, family and occupational therapist Patricia Gutentag called out technology as one of the main culprits: “This is a population that has grown up multitasking using technology, often compounded by lack of sleep, all of which results in high levels of forgetfulness,” she said.
6. You can’t concentrate on what you’re reading.
Even if you’ve shunned all distractions, you still won’t absorb information you read online as well as you would if you’d read it in a book. And you can blame hypertext for that. Those colorful little links scattered throughout online articles (including this one) make your brain work harder than it would otherwise, leaving less brain power to process what you’re reading. Even just reading on screens, like a laptop or iPad -- links or no links -- has been shown to diminish comprehension.
Research has shown that reading linked text “entails a lot of mental calisthenics -- evaluating hyperlinks, deciding whether to click, adjusting to different formats -- that are extraneous to the process of reading,” Carr wrote in “The Shallows.” And giving your brain more work to do makes it harder to absorb information. Text that’s peppered with photos, videos and ads is even worse.
7. You can’t find your way around without GPS.
People who rely on GPS to get around have less activity in the hippocampus, an area of the brain involved in both memory and navigation, according to a series of studies presented in 2010. Using spatial memory -- which involves using visual cues to develop "cognitive maps" that remember routes -- instead of operating on GPS-induced autopilot can help avert memory problems later in life, the studies found.
A 2008 study from the University of London even found that taxi drivers had more developed hippocampi than non-taxi drivers -- perhaps because they are so accustomed to navigating cities using spatial memory, rather than relying on GPS (though that may no longer be true of smartphone-equipped taxi drivers).
8. You have the brain of a drug addict.
No, “Internet addiction” isn’t just some BS term parents throw around to terrify youngsters who spend too much time playing Candy Crush. Spending too much time on the Internet can actually cause changes in the brain that mimic those caused by drug and alcohol dependence, according to a 2012 study.
Internet addicts -- most notably gamers who shun food, school and sleep to play for days on end -- have abnormal white and grey matter in their brains, which disrupts and cripples the regions involved in processing emotion and regulating attention and decision-making. Alcoholics and drug addicts have strikingly similar brain abnormalities, the study found.
“I have seen people who stopped attending university lectures, failed their degrees or their marriages broke down” because of Internet gaming addiction, Dr. Henriette Bowden Jones, who runs a British clinic for Internet addicts, told The Independent.
Now that you're properly terrified of the effects of technology on the old noggin, let us remind you that you do have the power to prevent brain drain and time-suck. Just log off every once in a while!
Yet tech advancements also come with some unintended consequences. Our brains being "massively rewired" by tech, says neuroscientist Michael Merzenich in The Shallows: What The Internet Is Doing To Our Brains, a Pulitzer-nominated 2011 book by Nicholas Carr. Merzenich warns that the effect of technology on human intelligence could be “deadly.”
That got us thinking. How exactly is technology messing up our brains?
1. Tech is screwing up your sleep.
Studies have shown that blue-enriched light, which is emitted by gadgets like smartphones, tablets and laptops, can suppress the body’s release of melatonin at night. Melatonin is a key hormone that helps regulate your internal clock, telling your body when it is nighttime and when to feel sleepy. Blue light can disrupt that process, making it impossible for you to stick to a proper sleep schedule.
Losing sleep has a number of negative effects on your brain. If you’re not logging seven or more hours of sleep each night, you might suffer from increasingly bad moods, decreased focus at work and problems with memory, not to mention a loss of actual brain tissue -- all of which makes you less than a joy to be around.
2. You’re easily distracted.
You don't really need science to know this, but technology makes it much easier to get distracted, whether that’s stepping away from an important project to check your smartphone or flipping between multiple browser tabs without really focusing on any one. It has been proven that toggling between multiple tasks at once doesn’t actually work -- in fact, you just wind up performing all your duties even worse.
Teens in particular are more distracted than ever. A 2012 Pew Research Center survey of more than 2,400 teachers found that most educators feel students are more distracted than previous generations. Some 87 percent of teachers agreed with the statement, “today’s digital technologies are creating an easily distracted generation with short attention spans,” while 64 percent agreed with the idea that “today’s digital technologies do more to distract students than to help them academically.” Yikes.
3. You can’t remember much...
Technology's tendency to butt into whatever else you're doing makes it more difficult to form new memories. As Nicholas Carr explains in The Shallows, memory comes in two types: transient working memory and long-term memory, which is more permanent. Information needs to pass from working memory into long-term memory in order to be stored. Any break in the processes of working memory -- like, say, stopping to check your email or send a text message in the middle of reading an article -- can erase information from your mind before that transfer occurs.
There’s also a limit to how much information your working memory can take in at once. Taking in too much information -- which happens a lot online -- is like “having water poured into a glass continuously all day long, so whatever was there at the top has to spill out as the new water comes down,” productivity expert Tony Schwartz told The Huffington Post last year.
4. ...so you’re relying on the Internet to remember things for you.
People used to be able to retain really vast quantities of knowledge -- like reciting entire novels, word for word -- but technology has eliminated both the need and the drive to do so. When you know that Google or your smartphone can retain a piece of information for you, you’re less likely to store it in memory, studies have shown. Scientific American last year likened the Internet to an “external hard drive” for our brains, as we outsource an increasing amount of information to the web.
That’s not the worst thing in the world, Scientific American adds. We’ve always outsourced some of that information to external “hard drives” of sorts, relying on friends rather than technology to fill in the gaps in our knowledge. But these day we're "outsourcing" way more.
5. And you're much more forgetful than you used to be.
Millennials are actually more likely to forget what day it is or where they put their keys than people over the age of 55, according to a 2013 Trending Machine survey. In a press release for the survey, family and occupational therapist Patricia Gutentag called out technology as one of the main culprits: “This is a population that has grown up multitasking using technology, often compounded by lack of sleep, all of which results in high levels of forgetfulness,” she said.
6. You can’t concentrate on what you’re reading.
Even if you’ve shunned all distractions, you still won’t absorb information you read online as well as you would if you’d read it in a book. And you can blame hypertext for that. Those colorful little links scattered throughout online articles (including this one) make your brain work harder than it would otherwise, leaving less brain power to process what you’re reading. Even just reading on screens, like a laptop or iPad -- links or no links -- has been shown to diminish comprehension.
Research has shown that reading linked text “entails a lot of mental calisthenics -- evaluating hyperlinks, deciding whether to click, adjusting to different formats -- that are extraneous to the process of reading,” Carr wrote in “The Shallows.” And giving your brain more work to do makes it harder to absorb information. Text that’s peppered with photos, videos and ads is even worse.
7. You can’t find your way around without GPS.
People who rely on GPS to get around have less activity in the hippocampus, an area of the brain involved in both memory and navigation, according to a series of studies presented in 2010. Using spatial memory -- which involves using visual cues to develop "cognitive maps" that remember routes -- instead of operating on GPS-induced autopilot can help avert memory problems later in life, the studies found.
A 2008 study from the University of London even found that taxi drivers had more developed hippocampi than non-taxi drivers -- perhaps because they are so accustomed to navigating cities using spatial memory, rather than relying on GPS (though that may no longer be true of smartphone-equipped taxi drivers).
8. You have the brain of a drug addict.
No, “Internet addiction” isn’t just some BS term parents throw around to terrify youngsters who spend too much time playing Candy Crush. Spending too much time on the Internet can actually cause changes in the brain that mimic those caused by drug and alcohol dependence, according to a 2012 study.
Internet addicts -- most notably gamers who shun food, school and sleep to play for days on end -- have abnormal white and grey matter in their brains, which disrupts and cripples the regions involved in processing emotion and regulating attention and decision-making. Alcoholics and drug addicts have strikingly similar brain abnormalities, the study found.
“I have seen people who stopped attending university lectures, failed their degrees or their marriages broke down” because of Internet gaming addiction, Dr. Henriette Bowden Jones, who runs a British clinic for Internet addicts, told The Independent.
Now that you're properly terrified of the effects of technology on the old noggin, let us remind you that you do have the power to prevent brain drain and time-suck. Just log off every once in a while!
Wednesday 30 July 2014
Imagine, what a 10years old girl do with heavy explosive device, here in Nigeria
A 10 year old girl strapped with an explosive belt was yesterday July 29th discovered by security forces in company of two other people, a man and an 18 year old girl, while traveling along a road in Katsina state.The DG of the National Information Center, Mr Mike Omeri said this while briefing news men at the National
Information Center;“Security forces on Tuesday, July 29, at about10pmalong Zaria Road, Tudun Wada of Funtua Metropolis, arrested three suspects believed to be members of the Boko Haram sect. The three suspects consisted a male named Iliya Haliru, and two females – Zainab Musa, 18, and Hadiza Musa, 10. The three suspects were arrested in a Honda CRV. When they were directed to disembark for security check, 10-year-old Hadiza was discovered to have been strapped with an explosive belt. And immediately, Iliya and Zainab made attempt to escape with the car but werelater blocked by other concerned Nigerians and subsequently arrested.
The police successfully unstrapped the explosive.”He appealed to parents to monitor theirwards so they do not get initiated into such evil acts.
Information Center;“Security forces on Tuesday, July 29, at about10pmalong Zaria Road, Tudun Wada of Funtua Metropolis, arrested three suspects believed to be members of the Boko Haram sect. The three suspects consisted a male named Iliya Haliru, and two females – Zainab Musa, 18, and Hadiza Musa, 10. The three suspects were arrested in a Honda CRV. When they were directed to disembark for security check, 10-year-old Hadiza was discovered to have been strapped with an explosive belt. And immediately, Iliya and Zainab made attempt to escape with the car but werelater blocked by other concerned Nigerians and subsequently arrested.
The police successfully unstrapped the explosive.”He appealed to parents to monitor theirwards so they do not get initiated into such evil acts.
Saturday 26 July 2014
Unbelievable!!; Nine years old boy married 62years old woman
The boy – now 9 years old –Saneie Masilelais the world’s youngest groom for the second time after remarrying the 62-year-old woman he married last year.
Although other villagers and onlookers describe the nuptials as “sickening”, the young groom dressed in a silver tuxedo says he did it again to make the marriage “official”.
No minding the 53-year-age gap, they repeated their vows a year later in front of 100 guests. His brideHelen Shabanguis a mother of 5, with children aged between 28 and 38 years old.
The ceremony took place in front of Helen’s long-term husbandAlfred Shabangu. He said “My kids and I are happy because we don’t have a problem with her marrying the boy – and I don’t care what other people say.”
Both families claim the wedding is a simply “ritual” after the young school boy was told by his dead ancestors to wed last year.
The boy however hopes he would have a proper wedding to a woman his age in the future.
“I told my mother that I wanted to get married because I really did want to.
I’m happy that I married Helen – but I will go to school and study hard.
When I’m older I will marry a lady my own age. I chose Helen because I love her and, although we don’t live together all the time, we meet at the dumping site where my mother works regularly.”
Helen also told reporters that she is excited that Saneie chose her. “One day Sanele would grow normally and have family of his own and get married one day, all this ceremony is for making ancestors happy. We are playing.” she said.
The young boy’s mother is also fine with the wedding, telling journalists;
“He was just happy to get married, very excited and was not embarrassed about it. So much so he wanted to do it again.
After the wedding last year people keep asking them question like will they live together, sleep together, have babies but I keep telling them that after the wedding everything went back to normal – nothing changed.
Sanele moved to Venda not long after the wedding because he wanted to learn a new language, but they are very close. Our families are very close.
It was nice celebrate with a wedding once more, it was after all a calling from the ancestors.
By doing this we made the ancestors happy. If we hadn’t done what my son had asked then something bad would have happened in the family.”
Although other villagers and onlookers describe the nuptials as “sickening”, the young groom dressed in a silver tuxedo says he did it again to make the marriage “official”.
No minding the 53-year-age gap, they repeated their vows a year later in front of 100 guests. His brideHelen Shabanguis a mother of 5, with children aged between 28 and 38 years old.
The ceremony took place in front of Helen’s long-term husbandAlfred Shabangu. He said “My kids and I are happy because we don’t have a problem with her marrying the boy – and I don’t care what other people say.”
Both families claim the wedding is a simply “ritual” after the young school boy was told by his dead ancestors to wed last year.
The boy however hopes he would have a proper wedding to a woman his age in the future.
“I told my mother that I wanted to get married because I really did want to.
I’m happy that I married Helen – but I will go to school and study hard.
When I’m older I will marry a lady my own age. I chose Helen because I love her and, although we don’t live together all the time, we meet at the dumping site where my mother works regularly.”
Helen also told reporters that she is excited that Saneie chose her. “One day Sanele would grow normally and have family of his own and get married one day, all this ceremony is for making ancestors happy. We are playing.” she said.
The young boy’s mother is also fine with the wedding, telling journalists;
“He was just happy to get married, very excited and was not embarrassed about it. So much so he wanted to do it again.
After the wedding last year people keep asking them question like will they live together, sleep together, have babies but I keep telling them that after the wedding everything went back to normal – nothing changed.
Sanele moved to Venda not long after the wedding because he wanted to learn a new language, but they are very close. Our families are very close.
It was nice celebrate with a wedding once more, it was after all a calling from the ancestors.
By doing this we made the ancestors happy. If we hadn’t done what my son had asked then something bad would have happened in the family.”
Nigeria gossip, Impeachment
There is trouble in Nasarawa State as the PDP is plotting to remove a Governor that was elected by the people of the state. Consequently, President Goodluck Jonathan on Thursday met behind closed-doors with members of the Nasarawa State House of Assembly.
The meeting is believed to be Jonathan’s way of intervening in the impeachment process that the lawmakers had instituted against the state Governor, Tanko Al-Makura, who met with the President over the weekend in his bid to stop his illegal removal from office.
The members of the assembly who met with Jonathan were led by their Speaker, Musa Muhammed. He told State House correspondents at the end of the parley that the meeting was a private one.
“It is a private visit. We are here to see the President on a private visit. I do not have the mandate of the assembly to address the press. We have the Chairman of the House Committee on Information who we have agreed should be talking on our behalf,” he said.
When asked whether the assembly was under pressure from the Presidency or any other quarters to drop the impeachment process, Muhammed asked, “Who is putting pressure on who?”
When pressed further to disclose whether the meeting had changed the situation in the state, the Speaker said he did not have the mandate of the assembly to speak with journalists. He said only the Chairman of the House Committee on Information was mandated to speak to journalists.
The meeting is believed to be Jonathan’s way of intervening in the impeachment process that the lawmakers had instituted against the state Governor, Tanko Al-Makura, who met with the President over the weekend in his bid to stop his illegal removal from office.
The members of the assembly who met with Jonathan were led by their Speaker, Musa Muhammed. He told State House correspondents at the end of the parley that the meeting was a private one.
“It is a private visit. We are here to see the President on a private visit. I do not have the mandate of the assembly to address the press. We have the Chairman of the House Committee on Information who we have agreed should be talking on our behalf,” he said.
When asked whether the assembly was under pressure from the Presidency or any other quarters to drop the impeachment process, Muhammed asked, “Who is putting pressure on who?”
When pressed further to disclose whether the meeting had changed the situation in the state, the Speaker said he did not have the mandate of the assembly to speak with journalists. He said only the Chairman of the House Committee on Information was mandated to speak to journalists.
I meet this girl,can i ask her for date in our first meeting.
I met this pretty girl at a friend’s house just last month and I took her out to lunch a few days later. We exchanged a few phone calls and text messages and I was feeling her until I met someone else just two weeks later. The girl invited me to birthday party and when I got there, I fell for the celebrant who happens to be the girl’s older sister. I’ve been on just one date with this girl and I’ve never touched or even kissed her so can I ask her older sister out? I managed to get her number at her birthday party but I don’t know what the younger sister may have told her about us. Nothing happened, I swear. I can’t stop thinking about the older sister, she’s more my type. I wish I had met her first and yes she’s single. Should I make the move? I need your advise. Thanks
how sweet to quit a job
Until your art pays the bills, you've got to work. But let's stop for a moment and imagine how sweet it must be to quit!
Today, Maria Popova's Brain Pickings featured a resignation letter from Sherwood Anderson when he left his advertising job upon becoming a successful novelist. I love the opening lines:
"You have a man in your employ that I have thought for a long time should be fired. I refer to Sherwood Anderson. He is a fellow of a good deal of ability, but for a long time I have been convinced that his heart is not in his work."
This reminded me with delight of the first time I walked out on a job. Like Sherwood Anderson, I was a writer. Unlike Sherwood Anderson, who quit because he was successful, I quit because my boss had what my mother called an "insect authority complex." He thought he should be in control of the world, but lacking that authority, he bossed his adolescent staff around. The air never tasted as sweet as it did after I threw my apron down and marched out into the night, where I sat with my notebook and wrote an essay about what it means to work for someone.
I had my college tuition to pay, and I was terrified as I sat there holding my pen.
But I kept writing, and writing, every day.
PS. Brain Pickings is a touchstone for daily illumination. If you don't read it already, you should consider starting
Today, Maria Popova's Brain Pickings featured a resignation letter from Sherwood Anderson when he left his advertising job upon becoming a successful novelist. I love the opening lines:
"You have a man in your employ that I have thought for a long time should be fired. I refer to Sherwood Anderson. He is a fellow of a good deal of ability, but for a long time I have been convinced that his heart is not in his work."
This reminded me with delight of the first time I walked out on a job. Like Sherwood Anderson, I was a writer. Unlike Sherwood Anderson, who quit because he was successful, I quit because my boss had what my mother called an "insect authority complex." He thought he should be in control of the world, but lacking that authority, he bossed his adolescent staff around. The air never tasted as sweet as it did after I threw my apron down and marched out into the night, where I sat with my notebook and wrote an essay about what it means to work for someone.
I had my college tuition to pay, and I was terrified as I sat there holding my pen.
But I kept writing, and writing, every day.
PS. Brain Pickings is a touchstone for daily illumination. If you don't read it already, you should consider starting
Sunday 20 July 2014
Naija news, Man died while having S**X
Naija men, pls ensure you stay away from another man’s wife while on your “rough” escapades. The quest by an Assistant Superintendent of Police, ASP, attached to the Ilu-Titun Divisional Headquarters in Okitipupa council area of Ondo State to satisfy his séxual urge while on duty has allegedly cost him his life.
He reportedly died while doing it with a woman allegedly laced with the dreaded magun charm ‘thunder bolt’. It was gathered that officer, after reporting for duty on the ill-fated day, inspected the officers on duty and left for the house of his “special woman”.
The residence of the woman is said to be a walking distance to the police station.
The relationship between the lovers had been on for a long time. It was learnt that the police officer, who had no premonition that death was lurking around the corner, walked into the embrace of his lover only for him to start somersaulting mid way into their séxual act…
According to Vanguard, around midnight, the woman raised the alarm, but nobody answered her call for help, hence she rushed to the police station to report what has happened to the ASP (name withheld).
The police officer was rushed to hospital, but died on the way. Sources said some whitish substances foamed from his mouth. The woman involved, according to police sources, has been arrested and detained.
The image maker of Ondo State Police Command, Wole Ogodo, said he was not aware of the incident.
But a police source in Okitipupa confirmed the incident, saying it was being discussed in hushed voices within the police command in the state.
He reportedly died while doing it with a woman allegedly laced with the dreaded magun charm ‘thunder bolt’. It was gathered that officer, after reporting for duty on the ill-fated day, inspected the officers on duty and left for the house of his “special woman”.
The residence of the woman is said to be a walking distance to the police station.
The relationship between the lovers had been on for a long time. It was learnt that the police officer, who had no premonition that death was lurking around the corner, walked into the embrace of his lover only for him to start somersaulting mid way into their séxual act…
According to Vanguard, around midnight, the woman raised the alarm, but nobody answered her call for help, hence she rushed to the police station to report what has happened to the ASP (name withheld).
The police officer was rushed to hospital, but died on the way. Sources said some whitish substances foamed from his mouth. The woman involved, according to police sources, has been arrested and detained.
The image maker of Ondo State Police Command, Wole Ogodo, said he was not aware of the incident.
But a police source in Okitipupa confirmed the incident, saying it was being discussed in hushed voices within the police command in the state.
Friday 18 July 2014
Latest news, Nigerian two men arrested
Two men, Jonathan Nwogu from Mgboko Umuola in Obingwa LGA of Abia state and Chibuike Anubuife from Ezeagu LGA of Enugu State were arrested by the Abia state command of the Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps, NSCDC while trying to bury the corpse of a 3 year old girl in an abandoned pit in Osisioma, near Aba on Wednesday July 16th, Vanguard reports.
Parading the men before newsmen, the state commandant of the NSCDC, Andy Dateer, said the men were apprehended at Enyimba petrol station near Ariara International market, Aba as they tried to put the young girl’s corpse in a sack for burial. A quarrel ensued between
the men and another man who was to convey them to the point of burial in his car when men of the NSCDC, who were on a routine patrol around the city, saw them. Continue…
“As people started gathering, the owner of the car zoomed off and my men arrested the two suspects. If they had not been saved by my men, the public would have lynched them and the society would not be able to know the mystery behind their act” he said
Seaking with newsmen, one of the suspects, Chibuike said he met Jonathan for the first time on that day as he pleaded with him to help him bury the little child. Jonathan on the other hand said a man accosted him to
help him bury the child.
The NSCDC boss said both suspects will be handed to the police for further investigations.
Parading the men before newsmen, the state commandant of the NSCDC, Andy Dateer, said the men were apprehended at Enyimba petrol station near Ariara International market, Aba as they tried to put the young girl’s corpse in a sack for burial. A quarrel ensued between
the men and another man who was to convey them to the point of burial in his car when men of the NSCDC, who were on a routine patrol around the city, saw them. Continue…
“As people started gathering, the owner of the car zoomed off and my men arrested the two suspects. If they had not been saved by my men, the public would have lynched them and the society would not be able to know the mystery behind their act” he said
Seaking with newsmen, one of the suspects, Chibuike said he met Jonathan for the first time on that day as he pleaded with him to help him bury the little child. Jonathan on the other hand said a man accosted him to
help him bury the child.
The NSCDC boss said both suspects will be handed to the police for further investigations.
Wednesday 16 July 2014
COUPLES ONLY; 10 S**X ideas for couples
One of the ways to keep your relationship from falling into a rut is to try some of the 10 sex ideas for couples. During the early days of a relationship, having fun, exciting sex is easy. But over time, it is easy to fall into a routine. Sex can almost become a chore- something you do because that’s what couples do. But, it doesn’t have to be that way. If you and your partner are open to a little adventure, and you’re both willing to expand your boundaries, then these ten sex tips will help.
1.Use role play. Plan to meet your partner at a predetermined location. Each of you should dress to play a role. For example, the guy can be a cowboy, and the woman can be a “lady of the evening.” Pretend you’ve just met, flirt, and engage in a hookup.
2.Give your partner an oil massage. Get a butter warmer to heat the oil. Use it to slowly massage your partner’s entire body. This is an exceptionally erotic activity. Plan ahead, because this is a messy activity. Also, be careful not to get the oil too hot. You may need to pour it into another container to cool it a bit.
3.
Reenact a sexy movie scene. Decide on a scene together, get the props, and recreate the scene from a movie such as “Pretty Woman”.
4.Stay in bed all day and make love. Some people like to do this at a hotel or vacation spot, but it can be done at home. Spending the whole day in bed gives you time to explore each other fully. It’s also a good time to fully satisfy the female partner’s desire for cuddling after sex.
5.Find out what your partner’s fantasy is and make it come true. You may be surprised by what you learn. Hopefully, your partner will reciprocate and fulfill one of your fantasies.
6.Engage in competitive physical activity before sex. Many couples report that things like playing tennis with each other before intercourse enhances the sex experience. You can also compete together against another couple. Some couples like to combine the oil massage with a playful wrestling match.
7.Initiate early morning sex. Sex isn’t only for the night. Get up a little early and begin massaging and kissing your partner until she wakes up. Things will develop from there. Morning sex starts the day off right for any couple.
8.Make a date for sex during lunch. This sex is usually intense but fast. Men especially need these quick releases. The time pressure, however, adds an element of excitement for both partners.
9.Meet your partner at the door naked when she comes home. The spontaneity and surprise of this tip makes it a favorite among couples and can lead to the use of new positions and new locations besides the bedroom.
10.Have sex partially clothed. Most couples get fully naked for sex. But, by staying partially clothed, couples can recapture the passion of youth when sex often had to be furtive and quick to avoid getting caught.
1.Use role play. Plan to meet your partner at a predetermined location. Each of you should dress to play a role. For example, the guy can be a cowboy, and the woman can be a “lady of the evening.” Pretend you’ve just met, flirt, and engage in a hookup.
2.Give your partner an oil massage. Get a butter warmer to heat the oil. Use it to slowly massage your partner’s entire body. This is an exceptionally erotic activity. Plan ahead, because this is a messy activity. Also, be careful not to get the oil too hot. You may need to pour it into another container to cool it a bit.
3.
Reenact a sexy movie scene. Decide on a scene together, get the props, and recreate the scene from a movie such as “Pretty Woman”.
4.Stay in bed all day and make love. Some people like to do this at a hotel or vacation spot, but it can be done at home. Spending the whole day in bed gives you time to explore each other fully. It’s also a good time to fully satisfy the female partner’s desire for cuddling after sex.
5.Find out what your partner’s fantasy is and make it come true. You may be surprised by what you learn. Hopefully, your partner will reciprocate and fulfill one of your fantasies.
6.Engage in competitive physical activity before sex. Many couples report that things like playing tennis with each other before intercourse enhances the sex experience. You can also compete together against another couple. Some couples like to combine the oil massage with a playful wrestling match.
7.Initiate early morning sex. Sex isn’t only for the night. Get up a little early and begin massaging and kissing your partner until she wakes up. Things will develop from there. Morning sex starts the day off right for any couple.
8.Make a date for sex during lunch. This sex is usually intense but fast. Men especially need these quick releases. The time pressure, however, adds an element of excitement for both partners.
9.Meet your partner at the door naked when she comes home. The spontaneity and surprise of this tip makes it a favorite among couples and can lead to the use of new positions and new locations besides the bedroom.
10.Have sex partially clothed. Most couples get fully naked for sex. But, by staying partially clothed, couples can recapture the passion of youth when sex often had to be furtive and quick to avoid getting caught.
Romance; 5 ways, woman to enjoy S**X
just read a post that reminded me of a similar post here when Dear Myne just started, of a newly wedded wife who had pains each time she tried to have sex with the husband. Check it out, [Dear Myne - It is Difficult to have Sex with my Husband! ] there are loads of very informative comments. This one is about of a young wife who is wondering if she’s circumcised and if that’s a reason she does not enjoy sex with her husband of 2 years.
On the issue of circumcision and pleasure during sex, I know that even circumcised ladies enjoy sex, so no one need worry about that. For those who really want to know, you can put a mirror between your legs and look at your vagina. If there is a protruding part at the top of the two side lips, you’re not circumcised.
For the lady who did not enjoy sex, I had some questions,
1. Have you ever pleasured yourself? That is the first way to know what works for you. Use your fingers and touch yourself, no need to even put it inside you, just play with your outer lips, and imagine you’re enjoying sex with your husband.
2. Do you guys have any foreplay before the main sex? Slow your husband from going in immediately. Spend time kissing, on the lips, neck, ears, back, and touching your bodies slowly, direct him to those parts that you know you like and give you pleasure.
3. What do you think about when having sex with your husband? The brain is the most important sex organ. If you’re worrying about work, your friends, your baby, the people in the house, how your breast sag to the sides, or your husband’s face in sex, you will be distracted. Focus on what you like about the sex and enjoy it.
4. Do you get well lubricated and wet? If not, talk to your husband and buy a lubricant. The simplest is KY Jelly, and choose the water based one. There are some advanced ones that also contain stuff to excite you directly and increase your pleasure.
5. Do you read? What do you think of adult videos, or books with some love and sex scenes. If you hate such stuff, it may be hard for you to enjoy sex in real life. If they excite you, then watch some, or read a book just before you have sex with your husband, it will put you in the mood.
These are the points I could think of, did I miss anything?
On the issue of circumcision and pleasure during sex, I know that even circumcised ladies enjoy sex, so no one need worry about that. For those who really want to know, you can put a mirror between your legs and look at your vagina. If there is a protruding part at the top of the two side lips, you’re not circumcised.
For the lady who did not enjoy sex, I had some questions,
1. Have you ever pleasured yourself? That is the first way to know what works for you. Use your fingers and touch yourself, no need to even put it inside you, just play with your outer lips, and imagine you’re enjoying sex with your husband.
2. Do you guys have any foreplay before the main sex? Slow your husband from going in immediately. Spend time kissing, on the lips, neck, ears, back, and touching your bodies slowly, direct him to those parts that you know you like and give you pleasure.
3. What do you think about when having sex with your husband? The brain is the most important sex organ. If you’re worrying about work, your friends, your baby, the people in the house, how your breast sag to the sides, or your husband’s face in sex, you will be distracted. Focus on what you like about the sex and enjoy it.
4. Do you get well lubricated and wet? If not, talk to your husband and buy a lubricant. The simplest is KY Jelly, and choose the water based one. There are some advanced ones that also contain stuff to excite you directly and increase your pleasure.
5. Do you read? What do you think of adult videos, or books with some love and sex scenes. If you hate such stuff, it may be hard for you to enjoy sex in real life. If they excite you, then watch some, or read a book just before you have sex with your husband, it will put you in the mood.
These are the points I could think of, did I miss anything?
Sunday 13 July 2014
Story; Love v Sex
LOVE VS SEX
A teenage girl about 17 had gone to visit some friends one evening and time passed quickly as each shared their various experiences of the past year. She ended up staying longer than planned, and had to walk home alone. She wasn’t afraid because it was a small town and she lived only a few blocks away. As she walked along under the tall elm trees, Diane asked God to keep her safe ...from harm and danger. When she reached the alley, which was a short cut to her house, she decided to take it. However, halfway down the alley she noticed a man standing at the end as though he was waiting for her. She became uneasy and began to pray, asking for God’s protection. Instantly a comforting feeling of quietness and security wrapped round her, she felt as though someone was walking with her. When she reached the end of the alley, she walked right past the man and arrived home safely. The following day, she read in the newspaper that a young girl had been raped in the same alley just twenty minutes after she had been there. Feeling overwhelmed by this tragedy and the fact that it could have been her, she began to weep. Thanking the Lord for her safety and to help this young woman, she decided to go to the police station. She felt she could recognize the man, so she told them her story. The police asked her if she would be willing to look at a lineup to see if she could identify him. She agreed and immediately pointed out the man she had seen in the alley the night before. When the man was told he had been identified, he immediately broke down and confessed. The officer thanked Diane for her bravery and asked if there was anything they could do for her. She asked if they would ask the man one question. Diane was curious as to why he had not attacked her. When the policeman asked him, he answered, “Because she wasn’t alone. She had two tall men walking on either side of her.” Amazingly, whether you believe or not, you’re never alone. Did you know that 98% of teenagers will not stand up for God? Repost this as Love vs. Sex if you truly believe in God.
A teenage girl about 17 had gone to visit some friends one evening and time passed quickly as each shared their various experiences of the past year. She ended up staying longer than planned, and had to walk home alone. She wasn’t afraid because it was a small town and she lived only a few blocks away. As she walked along under the tall elm trees, Diane asked God to keep her safe ...from harm and danger. When she reached the alley, which was a short cut to her house, she decided to take it. However, halfway down the alley she noticed a man standing at the end as though he was waiting for her. She became uneasy and began to pray, asking for God’s protection. Instantly a comforting feeling of quietness and security wrapped round her, she felt as though someone was walking with her. When she reached the end of the alley, she walked right past the man and arrived home safely. The following day, she read in the newspaper that a young girl had been raped in the same alley just twenty minutes after she had been there. Feeling overwhelmed by this tragedy and the fact that it could have been her, she began to weep. Thanking the Lord for her safety and to help this young woman, she decided to go to the police station. She felt she could recognize the man, so she told them her story. The police asked her if she would be willing to look at a lineup to see if she could identify him. She agreed and immediately pointed out the man she had seen in the alley the night before. When the man was told he had been identified, he immediately broke down and confessed. The officer thanked Diane for her bravery and asked if there was anything they could do for her. She asked if they would ask the man one question. Diane was curious as to why he had not attacked her. When the policeman asked him, he answered, “Because she wasn’t alone. She had two tall men walking on either side of her.” Amazingly, whether you believe or not, you’re never alone. Did you know that 98% of teenagers will not stand up for God? Repost this as Love vs. Sex if you truly believe in God.
Friday 11 July 2014
How to be successful with SFI
Hello fellow affiliate,
This post is one that I have been considering for a while based on questions from people who have an interest in building an online business but who lacked confidence in themselves to commit to getting started. The various questions that folks have are valid ones, but it was apparent that there was an underlying issue that needed to be addressed.
The most immediate concerns voiced by members related to how one becomes an SFI Executive Affiliate (EA) and hold the EA2 status. One of the most valuable things I learned was the importance of getting started and seeing small successes quickly. This post will cover that issue in detail.
Becoming an executive and establishing a profitable online business has a lot to do with being able to stay consistent in daily actions. The steps for success have already been established for you through SFI training. As a matter of fact, the steps are simple enough to repeat on a daily basis. There are many benefits to being an executive affiliate. Once you get in the habit of achieving your daily goals, successful habits begin to multiply.
Phase 1
Let’s take a look at the easiest way to become an executive affiliate as the first step. Begin the process by being your own loyal customer. Purchase your favorite goods and services through the TripleClicks.com website. Enjoy the convenience and savings of shopping online. Take advantage of the daily deals. Review the auction center to find excellent products at super savings. Tens of thousands of products are available for you with hundreds of new ones added to the online marketplace each day.
Since each product has a versa point (VP) value, you can track your points as you purchase or make sales through the. Accumulate 1,500 VP or more to reach the executive affiliate level. Transfer your buying habits through your own store and you’ll see how quickly and easily it is to accumulate the necessary level of VP to qualify as an executive affiliate each month.
SFI has no purchasing requirements. There is no requirement to purchase anything from your own store. Consider that many of the products you are now purchasing outside of your own store each month helps to finance someone else’s lifestyle. Gain executive affiliate benefits by redirecting your purchasing power through your own store at triple clicks each month.
Phase 2
The next step to building your business should come after you are confident in the consistent practice of Phase 1. Once you are experienced in buying from your own store, refer customers to your business website. This second phase may take a little longer to acquire the necessary points for qualifying as executive affiliate if you initially focus solely on building a retail business. There should be no issue with qualifying each month if you are taking advantage of the benefits of buying from your TripleClicks store.
Promote the shopping experience. Demonstrate the ease of searching and selecting items on the website. Take part in the options and demonstrate to potential customers the various options available at your store. Customers will enjoy the same convenience and savings when they shop in your TripleClicks store. Remember, a customer is defined as a buyer who is neither affiliated with SFI, nor residing at your home. SFI offers a variety of training options to help maximize your sales and marketing efforts.
I cannot overstate the value of personally shopping from your own store. Not only do you experience the savings, you are able to recommend the products and the buying experience to others with integrity. As you begin to accumulate more Versa points through online sales, you will begin to understand the real power behind this dynamic retail concept.
The importance of accumulating VP
VersaPoints is similar to coupons and even store Club Card incentives. This program offers affiliates a chance to earn rewards for consistent action. Specific points are awarded to affiliates whether it is for making purchases from your own store or studying the appropriate online materials that help you build your business. Helping people to succeed at small victories is a core principle of SFI.
Affiliates can gain points by logging into their LaunchPad and following through on the daily tasks. Additional versa points can be awarded to affiliates for promoting auctions, purchasing their favorite monthly items at the website or by building a loyal online retail customer base.
Phase 3
Your business will become larger and more profitable as you become more skilled at promoting the concepts around this unique method of online marketing. There are several strategies that can help you to achieve your monthly VP to continue qualifying as an executive affiliate. Through a combination of personal shopping, online auctions and customer sales, you can effortlessly reach your desired level with remarkably little difficulty.
The next logical step in your business growth will be to become a leader and teacher. As you expose the unique retail concept to others, there will be those who see the potential inherent in running their own online store. These individuals will want to enjoy the convenience and savings of purchasing as a customer; they will have a strong desire to build a business of their own. You can introduce them to the core concepts of SFI and get them started. Plug them into the system to make it easy for them to replicate your success.
You can build a team of businesses with the help of SFI. The company will reward you through various leadership perks as you help others develop their businesses. Help your teammates to develop their personal shopping habits at the start. Guide them through the procedure of accumulating VP so they may qualify each month for executive affiliate status. As your associates begin to duplicate your success through accumulating action versa points, they will see how easy it is to succeed in this business.
At SFI, everyone has an opportunity to reach their personal best and live up to their potential. SFI and TripleClicks.com represent a unique opportunity for many people to enhance their lifestyle by helping others do the same. SF I leadership offers unlimited possibilities for anyone seeking a challenge with a healthy dose of financial and personal growth. Don’t wait to get started, join the Sfi team and let me help you to succeed in your online business.click here to join http://www.sfippa.com/14307287/free
This post is one that I have been considering for a while based on questions from people who have an interest in building an online business but who lacked confidence in themselves to commit to getting started. The various questions that folks have are valid ones, but it was apparent that there was an underlying issue that needed to be addressed.
The most immediate concerns voiced by members related to how one becomes an SFI Executive Affiliate (EA) and hold the EA2 status. One of the most valuable things I learned was the importance of getting started and seeing small successes quickly. This post will cover that issue in detail.
Becoming an executive and establishing a profitable online business has a lot to do with being able to stay consistent in daily actions. The steps for success have already been established for you through SFI training. As a matter of fact, the steps are simple enough to repeat on a daily basis. There are many benefits to being an executive affiliate. Once you get in the habit of achieving your daily goals, successful habits begin to multiply.
Phase 1
Let’s take a look at the easiest way to become an executive affiliate as the first step. Begin the process by being your own loyal customer. Purchase your favorite goods and services through the TripleClicks.com website. Enjoy the convenience and savings of shopping online. Take advantage of the daily deals. Review the auction center to find excellent products at super savings. Tens of thousands of products are available for you with hundreds of new ones added to the online marketplace each day.
Since each product has a versa point (VP) value, you can track your points as you purchase or make sales through the. Accumulate 1,500 VP or more to reach the executive affiliate level. Transfer your buying habits through your own store and you’ll see how quickly and easily it is to accumulate the necessary level of VP to qualify as an executive affiliate each month.
SFI has no purchasing requirements. There is no requirement to purchase anything from your own store. Consider that many of the products you are now purchasing outside of your own store each month helps to finance someone else’s lifestyle. Gain executive affiliate benefits by redirecting your purchasing power through your own store at triple clicks each month.
Phase 2
The next step to building your business should come after you are confident in the consistent practice of Phase 1. Once you are experienced in buying from your own store, refer customers to your business website. This second phase may take a little longer to acquire the necessary points for qualifying as executive affiliate if you initially focus solely on building a retail business. There should be no issue with qualifying each month if you are taking advantage of the benefits of buying from your TripleClicks store.
Promote the shopping experience. Demonstrate the ease of searching and selecting items on the website. Take part in the options and demonstrate to potential customers the various options available at your store. Customers will enjoy the same convenience and savings when they shop in your TripleClicks store. Remember, a customer is defined as a buyer who is neither affiliated with SFI, nor residing at your home. SFI offers a variety of training options to help maximize your sales and marketing efforts.
I cannot overstate the value of personally shopping from your own store. Not only do you experience the savings, you are able to recommend the products and the buying experience to others with integrity. As you begin to accumulate more Versa points through online sales, you will begin to understand the real power behind this dynamic retail concept.
The importance of accumulating VP
VersaPoints is similar to coupons and even store Club Card incentives. This program offers affiliates a chance to earn rewards for consistent action. Specific points are awarded to affiliates whether it is for making purchases from your own store or studying the appropriate online materials that help you build your business. Helping people to succeed at small victories is a core principle of SFI.
Affiliates can gain points by logging into their LaunchPad and following through on the daily tasks. Additional versa points can be awarded to affiliates for promoting auctions, purchasing their favorite monthly items at the website or by building a loyal online retail customer base.
Phase 3
Your business will become larger and more profitable as you become more skilled at promoting the concepts around this unique method of online marketing. There are several strategies that can help you to achieve your monthly VP to continue qualifying as an executive affiliate. Through a combination of personal shopping, online auctions and customer sales, you can effortlessly reach your desired level with remarkably little difficulty.
The next logical step in your business growth will be to become a leader and teacher. As you expose the unique retail concept to others, there will be those who see the potential inherent in running their own online store. These individuals will want to enjoy the convenience and savings of purchasing as a customer; they will have a strong desire to build a business of their own. You can introduce them to the core concepts of SFI and get them started. Plug them into the system to make it easy for them to replicate your success.
You can build a team of businesses with the help of SFI. The company will reward you through various leadership perks as you help others develop their businesses. Help your teammates to develop their personal shopping habits at the start. Guide them through the procedure of accumulating VP so they may qualify each month for executive affiliate status. As your associates begin to duplicate your success through accumulating action versa points, they will see how easy it is to succeed in this business.
At SFI, everyone has an opportunity to reach their personal best and live up to their potential. SFI and TripleClicks.com represent a unique opportunity for many people to enhance their lifestyle by helping others do the same. SF I leadership offers unlimited possibilities for anyone seeking a challenge with a healthy dose of financial and personal growth. Don’t wait to get started, join the Sfi team and let me help you to succeed in your online business.click here to join http://www.sfippa.com/14307287/free
Wednesday 9 July 2014
Revealed:) Romance
This one will probably steal your heart in your early 20’s, in those years when you’re trying to figure out who you are and who you want to be, and discovering your wings seems to come with a side of rebellion. You’ll think you can change him, but you can’t.1. The First Love.
Also commonly known as “The High School Sweetheart.” This boy is the Kevin to your Winnie. The Cory to your Topanga. The Dawson to your Joey. Sweet, innocent, idealistic…this is the stuff coming-of-age movies are made of. The First Love is probably the first boy you’ll ever kiss. (Or at least the first one you’ll kiss and feel the earth move.) He probably plays a sport and wears a letterman jacket.2. The One That Could Have Been (But the Timing Was Always Off).
May be you met while one of you was already in a relationship. Maybe every time you started to get close, life or work or something else completely unexpected came between you. Maybe it was simply God watching out for you, because He knows the two of you burned too brightly together to ever sustain a lasting spark.Perhaps in another lifetime you were perfect together…but not this one.
3. The Bad Boy.
This one will probably steal your heart in your early 20’s, in those years when you’re trying to figure out who you are and who you want to be, and discovering your wings seems to come with a side of rebellion. You’ll think you can change him, but you can’t. (And secretly, you won’t want to, because if you did, he’d no longer be the boy who stole your heart). He’ll make you cry as much or more as he makes you laugh. Underneath it all, you suspect he has a heart of gold…and he probably does…but it will take years and many women after you to uncover it.
4. The One That Got Away.
This boy will seem perfect…and secretly, you suspect he is. He’ll say all the right things, do all the right things, be the very picture of everything you ever imagined you wanted…except now that you have it, you question if you’re ready for that kind of perfection. And chances are, you’re not. Life knows when you’re ready. GOD knows when you’re ready. So even though The One That Got Away offers you everything you thought you wanted, he offers nothing you KNOW you need. And what you need is more time. Time to date other boys you’ll like but won’t love. Time to not date at all and just figure out who YOU are.
Except you didn’t.
5. The One.
I haven’t met this one yet. I like to think he’s a mix of the four loves that came before him. I like to think he’s sweet and steadfast like The First Love, and passionate and challenging like The One That Could Have Been, and a little wild and rough around the edges like The Bad Boy, with the heart for commitment and building a life together like The One That Got Away. I like to think he’s all of them and none of them, all at the same time. I like to think he personifies this list and also erases it…using the scattered pieces of my heart he gently reclaims from each of them as the eraser.
Also commonly known as “The High School Sweetheart.” This boy is the Kevin to your Winnie. The Cory to your Topanga. The Dawson to your Joey. Sweet, innocent, idealistic…this is the stuff coming-of-age movies are made of. The First Love is probably the first boy you’ll ever kiss. (Or at least the first one you’ll kiss and feel the earth move.) He probably plays a sport and wears a letterman jacket.2. The One That Could Have Been (But the Timing Was Always Off).
May be you met while one of you was already in a relationship. Maybe every time you started to get close, life or work or something else completely unexpected came between you. Maybe it was simply God watching out for you, because He knows the two of you burned too brightly together to ever sustain a lasting spark.Perhaps in another lifetime you were perfect together…but not this one.
3. The Bad Boy.
This one will probably steal your heart in your early 20’s, in those years when you’re trying to figure out who you are and who you want to be, and discovering your wings seems to come with a side of rebellion. You’ll think you can change him, but you can’t. (And secretly, you won’t want to, because if you did, he’d no longer be the boy who stole your heart). He’ll make you cry as much or more as he makes you laugh. Underneath it all, you suspect he has a heart of gold…and he probably does…but it will take years and many women after you to uncover it.
4. The One That Got Away.
This boy will seem perfect…and secretly, you suspect he is. He’ll say all the right things, do all the right things, be the very picture of everything you ever imagined you wanted…except now that you have it, you question if you’re ready for that kind of perfection. And chances are, you’re not. Life knows when you’re ready. GOD knows when you’re ready. So even though The One That Got Away offers you everything you thought you wanted, he offers nothing you KNOW you need. And what you need is more time. Time to date other boys you’ll like but won’t love. Time to not date at all and just figure out who YOU are.
Except you didn’t.
5. The One.
I haven’t met this one yet. I like to think he’s a mix of the four loves that came before him. I like to think he’s sweet and steadfast like The First Love, and passionate and challenging like The One That Could Have Been, and a little wild and rough around the edges like The Bad Boy, with the heart for commitment and building a life together like The One That Got Away. I like to think he’s all of them and none of them, all at the same time. I like to think he personifies this list and also erases it…using the scattered pieces of my heart he gently reclaims from each of them as the eraser.
UNBELIEVABLE
2014 world cup. I mean, Brazilians were crying likebabes while the match was on and the Germans were trashing them silly. In fact, the German Machines were on fire.Brazil conceded five goals in the first half and two more in the second half, they managed to score to one. The Germans have advanced to the finals and will play the winner between Netherlands and Argentina.
lets see what happens today.
lets see what happens today.
Monday 7 July 2014
Latest news, Man died in room after announce missing
The Lagos State Police Command has commenced investigations into the mysterious death of a 39-year-old trader, Sylvanus Okoye, who was discovered without his penis in a pool of blood at his house. The indigene of Abidi, Umu Ochi, Anambra State, was found dead two weeks after he was last seen by neighbours. His corpse was saidto have been discovered after a foul odour engulfed the premises of the house, located at Ezemegbu Drive, Okota.
It was learnt that on Thursday, neighbours forced the door to his apartment open and the corpse was discovered. The victim’s brother, Paul, also a trader, said neighbours called to inform him that his brother had not been seen for some days.He said, I was called by the landlord that they have not seen mybrotherfor some time. They said a stranger dropped his phone and house key with the security guard. When I got here, we opened the door to his flat. We saw his bloated body, with a rope tied on his neck. There was a mortar, pestle and a knife on the bed. Obviously he was murdered. We are confused now; we have reported the matter at Okota Police Station. They have collected the knife and pestle. What I am craving nowis justice. Police should investigate this matter and prosecute all involved. We were told that the security guard at their house was not around on that fateful day, so a certain man dropped the key to my brother’s house and his telephone with a female trader in front of the house. The guard told us that he knew the person who dropped the key.”
The guard and thetraderhave been arrested by thepolic
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It was learnt that on Thursday, neighbours forced the door to his apartment open and the corpse was discovered. The victim’s brother, Paul, also a trader, said neighbours called to inform him that his brother had not been seen for some days.He said, I was called by the landlord that they have not seen mybrotherfor some time. They said a stranger dropped his phone and house key with the security guard. When I got here, we opened the door to his flat. We saw his bloated body, with a rope tied on his neck. There was a mortar, pestle and a knife on the bed. Obviously he was murdered. We are confused now; we have reported the matter at Okota Police Station. They have collected the knife and pestle. What I am craving nowis justice. Police should investigate this matter and prosecute all involved. We were told that the security guard at their house was not around on that fateful day, so a certain man dropped the key to my brother’s house and his telephone with a female trader in front of the house. The guard told us that he knew the person who dropped the key.”
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Saturday 5 July 2014
Romance & Sex,A must read
Men love sex. We do. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Many women also love sex, although few of them quite as much as we do. If, however, you learn how to touch your woman in ways no man has ever touched her before, your chances of getting more sex from her will increase tenfold. That said, here are seven parts of her body you might want to head to before you get your freak on. Not only will you arouse her immensely, you’ll show her that you know that sex isn’t simply about penetration alone.
1- Spine
While you should never massage the spine directly, feel free to use your tongue or fingers to glide up it every now and then. To drive her crazy, let your tongue graze over the little hairs on her back. Or, you can always use your fingers to tickle your way up to her neck.
2- Behind the neck
Believe it or not, for some women, the back of the neck is the spot that makes them melt. Next time you kiss your girl, move her hair away from her neck (if applicable) and breathe on her neck, letting your lips graze against it before you kiss and then lightly bite into it.
3- Scalp
While you’re kissing your girl, put your hands on the back of her head and massage her scalp for a minute. Feel free to give her hair a little tug from the roots; it will heighten her senses.
On to the other four parts you’re probably ignoring…
4- Shoulders
From kissing and massaging to lightly biting, the shoulders are an oft-ignored body part, but they should be given some serious attention. Because this area of a woman’s body is often neglected, when you do spend some time appreciating her shoulders, she will get the chills and, in turn, you will get your thrills.
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5- Breasts (not nipples)
We tend to instinctively head straight for the nipples and only grab on to the breasts when we want to bring the nipples closer to our mouths. However, if you want her nipple to beg for your attention, you need to spend some time kissing and caressing the surrounding area — the breast. Lick and bite near the nipples without actually touching them and she’ll be begging you to wrap your mouth around them.
6- Outer labia
As with the breast, when it comes to the vagina, we tend to dive right into the wet spot and ignore the outer lips. Assuming she’s well-groomed, use your mouth and tongue to lick and kiss the labia majora of your woman’s vagina and when you finally head on in, she’ll be soaked.
7- Ankles
It’s somewhat anticlimactic to finish off with it, I know, but some women love having their feet kissed and touched. But rather than her feet, opt to kiss and caress her ankles instead. Be careful; don’t bite the area because it can hurt her.
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1- Spine
While you should never massage the spine directly, feel free to use your tongue or fingers to glide up it every now and then. To drive her crazy, let your tongue graze over the little hairs on her back. Or, you can always use your fingers to tickle your way up to her neck.
2- Behind the neck
Believe it or not, for some women, the back of the neck is the spot that makes them melt. Next time you kiss your girl, move her hair away from her neck (if applicable) and breathe on her neck, letting your lips graze against it before you kiss and then lightly bite into it.
3- Scalp
While you’re kissing your girl, put your hands on the back of her head and massage her scalp for a minute. Feel free to give her hair a little tug from the roots; it will heighten her senses.
On to the other four parts you’re probably ignoring…
4- Shoulders
From kissing and massaging to lightly biting, the shoulders are an oft-ignored body part, but they should be given some serious attention. Because this area of a woman’s body is often neglected, when you do spend some time appreciating her shoulders, she will get the chills and, in turn, you will get your thrills.
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5- Breasts (not nipples)
We tend to instinctively head straight for the nipples and only grab on to the breasts when we want to bring the nipples closer to our mouths. However, if you want her nipple to beg for your attention, you need to spend some time kissing and caressing the surrounding area — the breast. Lick and bite near the nipples without actually touching them and she’ll be begging you to wrap your mouth around them.
6- Outer labia
As with the breast, when it comes to the vagina, we tend to dive right into the wet spot and ignore the outer lips. Assuming she’s well-groomed, use your mouth and tongue to lick and kiss the labia majora of your woman’s vagina and when you finally head on in, she’ll be soaked.
7- Ankles
It’s somewhat anticlimactic to finish off with it, I know, but some women love having their feet kissed and touched. But rather than her feet, opt to kiss and caress her ankles instead. Be careful; don’t bite the area because it can hurt her.
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Latest news A lawyer murdered in his house
Human rights lawyer and social commentator, Barrister Kunle Fadipe (pictured above) was last night July 3rd murdered at his residence at Harmony Estate near Karaole Estate, College Road in Ifako Ijaiye, Lagos.
According to reports, the estate where the late barrister lived was plunged into total darkness after power outage and the lawyer asked his son to go and turn on the generator. As his son made his way to the generator, a man armed with a knife accosted him and ordered him to take him to his father. As soon as the man got to Mr Fadipe, he stabbed him in the neck and back. His daughter who was at home immediately ran out of the house and called for help. Two security officials attached to the estate immediately ran there and were able to overpower the murderer. Continue..
The motive for the murder is still uncertain however the police has taken the killer into custody with a promise that the incident will be thoroughly investigated.
Late Mr Kunle Fadipe was a former member of the National Human Rights Commission and a member of the board of trustees of the justice advocacy group, Access to Justice. May his soul rest in peace…amen.
Friday 4 July 2014
Romance 7 best places to touch your woman
Men love sex. We do. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Many women also love sex, although few of them quite as much as we do. If, however, you learn how to touch your woman in ways no man has ever touched her before, your chances of getting more sex from her will increase tenfold. That said, here are seven parts of her body you might want to head to before you get your freak on. Not only will you arouse her immensely, you’ll show her that you know that sex isn’t simply about penetration alone.
1- Spine
While you should never massage the spine directly, feel free to use your tongue or fingers to glide up it every now and then. To drive her crazy, let your tongue graze over the little hairs on her back. Or, you can always use your fingers to tickle your way up to her neck.
2- Behind the neck
Believe it or not, for some women, the back of the neck is the spot that makes them melt. Next time you kiss your girl, move her hair away from her neck (if applicable) and breathe on her neck, letting your lips graze against it before you kiss and then lightly bite into it.
3- Scalp
While you’re kissing your girl, put your hands on the back of her head and massage her scalp for a minute. Feel free to give her hair a little tug from the roots; it will heighten her senses.
On to the other four parts you’re probably ignoring…
4- Shoulders
From kissing and massaging to lightly biting, the shoulders are an oft-ignored body part, but they should be given some serious attention. Because this area of a woman’s body is often neglected, when you do spend some time appreciating her shoulders, she will get the chills and, in turn, you will get your thrills.
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5- Breasts (not nipples)
We tend to instinctively head straight for the nipples and only grab on to the breasts when we want to bring the nipples closer to our mouths. However, if you want her nipple to beg for your attention, you need to spend some time kissing and caressing the surrounding area — the breast. Lick and bite near the nipples without actually touching them and she’ll be begging you to wrap your mouth around them.
6- Outer labia
As with the breast, when it comes to the vagina, we tend to dive right into the wet spot and ignore the outer lips. Assuming she’s well-groomed, use your mouth and tongue to lick and kiss the labia majora of your woman’s vagina and when you finally head on in, she’ll be soaked.
7- Ankles
It’s somewhat anticlimactic to finish off with it, I know, but some women love having their feet kissed and touched. But rather than her feet, opt to kiss and caress her ankles instead. Be careful; don’t bite the area because it can hurt her.
1- Spine
While you should never massage the spine directly, feel free to use your tongue or fingers to glide up it every now and then. To drive her crazy, let your tongue graze over the little hairs on her back. Or, you can always use your fingers to tickle your way up to her neck.
2- Behind the neck
Believe it or not, for some women, the back of the neck is the spot that makes them melt. Next time you kiss your girl, move her hair away from her neck (if applicable) and breathe on her neck, letting your lips graze against it before you kiss and then lightly bite into it.
3- Scalp
While you’re kissing your girl, put your hands on the back of her head and massage her scalp for a minute. Feel free to give her hair a little tug from the roots; it will heighten her senses.
On to the other four parts you’re probably ignoring…
4- Shoulders
From kissing and massaging to lightly biting, the shoulders are an oft-ignored body part, but they should be given some serious attention. Because this area of a woman’s body is often neglected, when you do spend some time appreciating her shoulders, she will get the chills and, in turn, you will get your thrills.
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5- Breasts (not nipples)
We tend to instinctively head straight for the nipples and only grab on to the breasts when we want to bring the nipples closer to our mouths. However, if you want her nipple to beg for your attention, you need to spend some time kissing and caressing the surrounding area — the breast. Lick and bite near the nipples without actually touching them and she’ll be begging you to wrap your mouth around them.
6- Outer labia
As with the breast, when it comes to the vagina, we tend to dive right into the wet spot and ignore the outer lips. Assuming she’s well-groomed, use your mouth and tongue to lick and kiss the labia majora of your woman’s vagina and when you finally head on in, she’ll be soaked.
7- Ankles
It’s somewhat anticlimactic to finish off with it, I know, but some women love having their feet kissed and touched. But rather than her feet, opt to kiss and caress her ankles instead. Be careful; don’t bite the area because it can hurt her.
Thursday 3 July 2014
4 best places to have sex outside bedroom
Though having s*x is one of nature’s strongest instincts, it is often put at the bottom of the priority list. A University study of married couples found that just 32 percent said they had s*x at least a few times per week. The usual reasons contributed to this low number — including conflicting career pressures and the demands of raising a family.
Couples don’t need a getaway to crank up their s*x lives, though. Take a look at these four places in your own home to have s*x that may not have crossed your mind:
1. The Office
Is your husband or wife coming to visit in the office? Put the sexy back into your home office space by spicing it up in the off hours — or even on your lunch break. If your desk is too cluttered for comfort, use your desk chair. Even standing or lying on the floor will raise the level of adventure in your s*x session and make you and your partner feel very naughty in the workplace.
2. The Laundry Room
Let’s face it — laundry/utility rooms are probably the most boring rooms in the home. You and your partner likely don’t spend a lot of time in yours unless you have to be there cleaning or ironing. Use the mundane nature of these rooms to ignite some passion — particularly in the moment when it is least expected. Use the good vibrations of the washing machine or the heat from the dryer to kick up the intensity of your love-making.
3. The Backyard
The opportunities for recharging your s*x life using the outdoor features of your home are really endless. Consider the following places: pool, hot tub, patio chair, patio table, garage cabinets/shelving or storage units. You can even just lay down on a blanket under the stars and pretend you are holding each other somewhere much more exotic. Having s*x outside crosses the line between private and public exposure, heightening the feeling of danger in the experience — and boosting adrenaline.
4. The Stairs
It may not sound like the most comfortable spot but the stairs provide many angles for s*xual experiences. Take turns sitting on the steps or try standing positions with support from the railing. The memory alone can be a turn-on later in the day or night.
Where have you had s*x in your home outside the bedroom?
Couples don’t need a getaway to crank up their s*x lives, though. Take a look at these four places in your own home to have s*x that may not have crossed your mind:
1. The Office
Is your husband or wife coming to visit in the office? Put the sexy back into your home office space by spicing it up in the off hours — or even on your lunch break. If your desk is too cluttered for comfort, use your desk chair. Even standing or lying on the floor will raise the level of adventure in your s*x session and make you and your partner feel very naughty in the workplace.
2. The Laundry Room
Let’s face it — laundry/utility rooms are probably the most boring rooms in the home. You and your partner likely don’t spend a lot of time in yours unless you have to be there cleaning or ironing. Use the mundane nature of these rooms to ignite some passion — particularly in the moment when it is least expected. Use the good vibrations of the washing machine or the heat from the dryer to kick up the intensity of your love-making.
3. The Backyard
The opportunities for recharging your s*x life using the outdoor features of your home are really endless. Consider the following places: pool, hot tub, patio chair, patio table, garage cabinets/shelving or storage units. You can even just lay down on a blanket under the stars and pretend you are holding each other somewhere much more exotic. Having s*x outside crosses the line between private and public exposure, heightening the feeling of danger in the experience — and boosting adrenaline.
4. The Stairs
It may not sound like the most comfortable spot but the stairs provide many angles for s*xual experiences. Take turns sitting on the steps or try standing positions with support from the railing. The memory alone can be a turn-on later in the day or night.
Where have you had s*x in your home outside the bedroom?
Wednesday 2 July 2014
Monday 30 June 2014
Keshi & Yobo quits Nigeria
Super Eagles coach, Stephen Keshi and the team captain Joseph Yobo have both resigned from Super Eagles after failing to qualify to the quarter-final stage of the 2014 World Cup, Vanguard reports.
Speaking this evening after the Eagles lost to France in the round of 16, Keshi said it was time to move on.
“I have to go back to my family and face fresh challenges,” Keshi said.
Speaking this evening after the Eagles lost to France in the round of 16, Keshi said it was time to move on.
“I have to go back to my family and face fresh challenges,” Keshi said.
Sunday 29 June 2014
For Ladies, Top 10 ways you can make your man yours forever
when your hubby comes home in the evening. You say to him, “Honey I’m so glad you’re home. It’s been a really stressful day but all I could think about was coming home to you. I’m so glad I married you.”
1. A man needs to feel your respect in order to love you the way you want to be loved. Tell and show your man you respect and admire him. Let him know that you appreciate the things he does for you. Remember, what you do and say must be genuine.
2. Problem solving is your man’s way of showing he cares. Men like to problem solve. So when your man drives you crazy telling you to do x, y and z in certain situations that’s his way of taking care of the problem and therefore taking care of you. So don’t take it so personally.
3. Show your man he’s needed. Leman says showing your husband he’s needed is almost an art form. It’s so easy and the results are worth the effort. Leman gives the example of when your hubby comes home in the evening. You say to him, “Honey I’m so glad you’re home. It’s been a really stressful day but all I could
think about was coming home to you. I’m so glad I married you.”
Then Leman says, “slip him the commercial.” By that he means ask for what you want. “After you relax would you mind helping Cassie with her homework while I finish up dinner. Then she’ll get to bed on time and we can relax a little together.”
Leman says this is great because 1. You tell him you’re glad to see him. 2. You ask for his help with a specific thing. 3. You promised a reward—time with you. According to Leman, your words take so little time but they mean so much.
4. Sex with your husband is essential to a lasting marriage. Leman says sexual fulfillment affirms the very core of who a man is—it affirms his masculinity. It intensifies his drive to protect you, to take care of you, to love you and to provide for you. According to Leman, if you are intimate with your husband, he will seek no other (chronic cheaters do not apply).
5. Give direct requests to your man. You need to be direct when expressing what you want, Leman says. Men don’t get hints or subtlety. Be specific and straightforward.
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6. Reinforce good behavior. Leman says when your man is doing something right, reinforce it and tell him how much you appreciate it. Brag about him in front of your friends and family.
7. Stay concise. Too much yapping will shut down your man’s attention, Leman says. So keep it short and sweet. Similarly, when you “nag” or yell, your man doesn’t hear you. Actually Leman says when you cry or scream your man will shut down and think you’re cuckoo.
8. Your man wants to please you. Leman urges women to remember this. Men want to please and provide for their woman and when they are unable to do something right, Leman says that is akin to someone telling a woman she’s fat AND ugly. You would take it personally. And they do too.
9. Tell your man once (or twice) what needs to be done. He knows and he remembers, says Leman, and he will get to it on his own time without having to be reminded 10 times. A great way to ask your man to do something, without coming off as “nagging,” is to write a “Honey to do list,” Leman says. Try it out, it may work for you.
10. Be selective while dating, but accepting while married. Leman says, date with your eyes wide open, but keep them half closed after you’re married.
1. A man needs to feel your respect in order to love you the way you want to be loved. Tell and show your man you respect and admire him. Let him know that you appreciate the things he does for you. Remember, what you do and say must be genuine.
2. Problem solving is your man’s way of showing he cares. Men like to problem solve. So when your man drives you crazy telling you to do x, y and z in certain situations that’s his way of taking care of the problem and therefore taking care of you. So don’t take it so personally.
3. Show your man he’s needed. Leman says showing your husband he’s needed is almost an art form. It’s so easy and the results are worth the effort. Leman gives the example of when your hubby comes home in the evening. You say to him, “Honey I’m so glad you’re home. It’s been a really stressful day but all I could
think about was coming home to you. I’m so glad I married you.”
Then Leman says, “slip him the commercial.” By that he means ask for what you want. “After you relax would you mind helping Cassie with her homework while I finish up dinner. Then she’ll get to bed on time and we can relax a little together.”
Leman says this is great because 1. You tell him you’re glad to see him. 2. You ask for his help with a specific thing. 3. You promised a reward—time with you. According to Leman, your words take so little time but they mean so much.
4. Sex with your husband is essential to a lasting marriage. Leman says sexual fulfillment affirms the very core of who a man is—it affirms his masculinity. It intensifies his drive to protect you, to take care of you, to love you and to provide for you. According to Leman, if you are intimate with your husband, he will seek no other (chronic cheaters do not apply).
5. Give direct requests to your man. You need to be direct when expressing what you want, Leman says. Men don’t get hints or subtlety. Be specific and straightforward.
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6. Reinforce good behavior. Leman says when your man is doing something right, reinforce it and tell him how much you appreciate it. Brag about him in front of your friends and family.
7. Stay concise. Too much yapping will shut down your man’s attention, Leman says. So keep it short and sweet. Similarly, when you “nag” or yell, your man doesn’t hear you. Actually Leman says when you cry or scream your man will shut down and think you’re cuckoo.
8. Your man wants to please you. Leman urges women to remember this. Men want to please and provide for their woman and when they are unable to do something right, Leman says that is akin to someone telling a woman she’s fat AND ugly. You would take it personally. And they do too.
9. Tell your man once (or twice) what needs to be done. He knows and he remembers, says Leman, and he will get to it on his own time without having to be reminded 10 times. A great way to ask your man to do something, without coming off as “nagging,” is to write a “Honey to do list,” Leman says. Try it out, it may work for you.
10. Be selective while dating, but accepting while married. Leman says, date with your eyes wide open, but keep them half closed after you’re married.
Saturday 28 June 2014
For Guys only
GUYS ONLY: See The 7 secrets that women never tell their men 1It is a hidden fear among most women that other women in their man`s life, coworkers or female friends, may attract him more. The reason for it is quite simple, we all want to have something that we can`t have.
Women are known to be very open and extremely talkative creatures in comparison with men. But you`ll get surprised that not only men have some things to hide, but women also have some secrets. There is a mystery in every woman for a man to clear up. But unfortunately, only a few of them succeed. Though it is not that complicated to understand a woman, men have great difficulties with it. So here are some women`s secrets which I hope will help you to clear up the situation.
1. We want men to take initiative
It is a very important thing. We do not like to take care, to plan and to do all sorts of things by ourselves. We want men to take initiative. Though, we never tell about it, you should know that it is important that you carry out some difficult tasks or surprise us. When a man takes initiative it means that he is involved, that he is attentive and caring. Do it more often, no matter what kind of thing it is – list of stuff to buy, or prepare
dinner, or plan your next holiday.
2. We want to be surprised more often
All women go crazy with surprises, so we secretly dream about our partner to show his creativity and to astonish us as frequently as possible. Even a small unexpected sweet trifle will make a woman feel special and loved. It shouldn’t be an expensive gift, simply showing your initiative, concern and deep affection are priceless. It is not difficult, just be open and careful to your lady. When she realizes the fact that some effort has been taken to make her feel happy, you will be soon rewarded.
3. We are afraid that another women attract him more
It is a hidden fear among most women that other women in their man`s life, coworkers or female friends, may attract him more. The reason for it is quite simple, we all want to have something that we can`t have. So women are afraid that their man`s heart may be stolen or he will start fantasizing about another woman. There is nothing worse for a woman than that.
4. We want men to be sincere
Every person wants hisher partner to be always open and sincere no matter what. Nobody likes being fooled. And, of course, women are not the exception. We can forgive a lot of thing but not lies. Irrespective of the situation or how bad your fault is, a woman will always hear you out and even help you to solve the situation.
5. We notice and understand body language
Women are known to have a sixth sense, especially if it concerns relationships. We always notice and analyze all small details in another person, and that includes body language of our partners. So we usually are aware of his sympathy to a colleague, which we have never met. Once we notice something suspicious, it starts bothering us, though we may not be even aware of what exactly annoys us. And if a woman suspects something, she will be very upset when her man doesn`t spend time with her but stays in the office.
6. We agree with “Guy Time”
That is another secret that only a few men know about. A lot of women actually agree with “guy time”. We understand perfectly well that our husbands, boyfriends need some space for themselves, and that it is very important for them to spend some time with friends, watching football matches, drinking beer or playing various kinds of games. The only problem here may be when a woman feels lack of attention, while a man focuses only on spending time with friends.
7. We want their friends to like us
No woman will say this out loud. But it is so. His friends are very important for our men, so we want them to like us. This means that we want to show how we love our partner and what a beautiful person he is. Such tendency also helps to avoid unnecessary conflicts and arguments if we don`t like the friends or vice versa. Another reason for that is that his friends` sympathy for you will influence your partner`s decisions in various ways, which is, of course, to our advantage
Friday 27 June 2014
Every thing change after our marriage
I’ve been married now for almost 3 years and my husband and I have never made love. I could say he was impotent but to be honest, I really do not know the reason why. We were both celibate and Christians before we were married, and it worked out for us as there was no pressure to go against our conscience.
After he proposed and we started marriage counselling, we began to discuss sex and he used to go into some small detail about how excited he was to be getting married, and especially to me, and some of the things we hoped to be able to do after we became man and wife.
I was a bit hesitant to talk so openly but I was glad he wanted and desired me. Also he initiated cuddles some months to our wedding so we could begin to get used to each other. We would kiss and fondle through our clothes and it was really lovely. Sometimes he was a bit erect, other times not so much, and he never pushed me to go further. I was comfortable with that because I truly believe that sex should only come after marriage.
Well, we did get married, and since then things changed. He used to be more touchy-touchy and hugging, but this has reduced drastically. On the night of our wedding, we didn’t even try, he said he was tired. On our honeymoon of two weeks, we did try, but nothing much happened, sometimes he got a small erection but it never lasted enough to go in and he would just stop after that.
His reason was that he was stressed, and felt like I was expecting so much from him. I told him I wasn’t. I am actually a virgin and other than my husband, there was only one other guy I had kissed and made out with before my marriage.
After we came back from the honeymoon, all affection just dried up. When I try to touch him, he moves away. And once we moved into the new three bedroom we got 6months after the wedding, he asked that we have separate rooms. That has been the death of our marriage, such as it was.
As you can imagine, this has caused a strain on our marriage. I care for my husband, but at this stage, he’s more of a brother or friend to me, someone I share a flat with. I don’t love him anymore. I’ve tried talking to him about this, but I get nowhere. The most depressing apart is that when I try to ask for other forms of sex he walks away. His excuse is that if we do that, I would expect more and he didn’t want to keep disappointing me. I’m not even allowed to see him naked. As a result, I have resorted to looking at porn.
Last month, I confronted him. My parents and his mother, though indirectly, were beginning to talk too much about their expected grandchildren that I couldn’t be too blind to see what they were asking for. We had a blazing row, and harsh words were hurled. He later apologized, and for the first time confided in me that he had an STI which may have scared him about having penetrative sex. He told me to get off his case or divorce him. I thought about it but I just couldn’t do that.
To make matters worse, both my husband and I are workers in the church. If I could, I would get out of this marriage without delay, but I feel trapped because of what our pastor and church members would say. How would I even tell them the reason for our divorce? Also, I feel like I’ve given so much to this relationship and I don’t know how to start all over again. What of if the next man proves to be just as bad, or worse?
I’m 33 years old this year and sometimes, it’s like my life is wasting away. I married with the hope of building a marriage of love with my husband, and having children. All those dreams have gone up in smoke. Only my career and church keeps me going, but the temptation is building to either damn it all and leave him, or have an affair. He travels a lot, so it’s not as if I can’t pull this off.
It’s not that I have no more feelings for my husband. He has never been abusive to me. Only that he cannot offer the love and TLC that I crave so desperately and is not understanding to meet me halfway. My self-esteem is at an all-time low. I have gained over 20kg since I got married because I feel totally undesirable. I just do not know what to do.
Thursday 26 June 2014
Wednesday 25 June 2014
At least 21 killed in Abuja bomb blasts todays
At least 21 people were killed and 17 injured when an explosion tore through a crowded shopping district in the Nigerian capital Abuja during rush hour on Wednesday, a police spokesman said.
It was not immediately clear what caused the blast. Two witnesses at the scene said it shattered the glass of nearby stores and sent plumes of smoke billowing into the air.
The explosion rocked an area near the popular Banex Plaza shopping centre in the upscale Wuse 2 district, they said.
"After a preliminary investigation, we can confirm that 21 people were killed and 17 injured," police spokesman Frank Mba told reporters at the scene of the explosion.
"I heard a loud blast, it shattered the windows of the shop. We ran out. A lot of people ran too, some with blood stains," said Gimbya Jafaru, who was shopping nearby.
Thursday 19 June 2014
woman murders her 79years old husband over........
A 79-year-old woman in Japan named Yoshiko Suzuki has been arrested by the police after she allegedly beat her husband to death over an affair he had about 40 years ago.
NDTV reports that Yoshiko used a “stick-like object” to club her husband, Masaharu to death.
The couple lived with their 43-year-old daughter who was out shopping when the incident happened on Sunday night in their home in the town of Nakai, some 60 kilometres (40 miles) west of Tokyo.
She was arrested the following day and handed over to public prosecutors in Kanagawa prefecture on Tuesday, the police spokesman told AFP.
During interrogation, Yoshiko said, "My husband lost his job about 40 years ago because of an affair with a woman. We have often quarrelled over this matter."
According to report, the police intervened in one of their quarrels in September last year.
NDTV reports that Yoshiko used a “stick-like object” to club her husband, Masaharu to death.
The couple lived with their 43-year-old daughter who was out shopping when the incident happened on Sunday night in their home in the town of Nakai, some 60 kilometres (40 miles) west of Tokyo.
She was arrested the following day and handed over to public prosecutors in Kanagawa prefecture on Tuesday, the police spokesman told AFP.
During interrogation, Yoshiko said, "My husband lost his job about 40 years ago because of an affair with a woman. We have often quarrelled over this matter."
According to report, the police intervened in one of their quarrels in September last year.
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